STEP 1 – RULE OUT YOUR WORRIES… LITERALLY!
Feeling worried can be a positive thing! When we are worried or concerned about something, it’s generally from a lack of confidence. Our body goes “hey, we need to act here” to create some certainty and confidence in that area. Worry also allows people to better prepare themselves for negative experiences in their lives and develop a greater appreciation for positive experiences. However, there is the unhealthy side to worry. This is where our imagination, fear and lack of control starts to affect our quality of life. Here, I will help you differentiate what’s important, where you can take action, and what you can do to let go of the sh*t that is no longer serving you going into the busy holiday period.
STEP 2 – CHANGE WORRY TO WONDER
Experience a highly effective Kinesiology tool which you can use anywhere and anytime to help you shift your perspective and come up with your own solutions on the spot! This is where you become your own “Einstein”, allowing you to activate different areas of your brain to help you think clearly, rationally and in the present moment.
STEP 3 – LEAN TOWARDS WONDERFUL!
Find out what’s really important to you by checking in with your body’s own inner wisdom! Literally feel the energy in your body shift and respond to your thoughts, giving you the assurance you need to get the most out of your holidays!
STEP 1 – PUT YOUR WORRIES AWAY… LITERALLY!
(The Worry Box)
What are you worried about this Christmas?
What is causing you stress or stopping you from feeling excited, joyful, energised or calm about the holidays?
- Grab yourself a jar, box, container, or something which you can use for your “Worry Box”. Also grab a piece of paper and a pen.
- Give yourself 2 minutes and jot down (in dot points) anything you are worried or concerned about going into these holidays. Don’t overthink it, just get it out! Also, be sure to leave a decent space between each worry!
- Tear off and separate each worry and put them ALL in the worry box.
- Pick your first worry from the box ask yourself one of 2 things –
- Is this worry something you can control? If the answer’s NO, throw it out!…and pick another worry.
- Can you take action on this? If the answer is NO, because you can’t right now – put it back in the box for a later date. If the answer is YES – let’s figure out how you can find the confidence and a sense of control to help you move forward!
Your list may include a few of the following:
- How am I going to budget and afford presents this year?
- Who do I buy for?
- How am I going to find the time to Christmas shop?
- Will I be able to support my family if I take time off work?
- What will my boss think of me if I take time off work?
- What if we go into lockdown again and I get stuck?
- What if i can’t see family or friends due to Covid and travelling restrictions?
- I’m stressed about reconnecting with certain members of my family.
- How will I keep the kids entertained? I’m too tired to think.
- What will my boyfriend think of me when we go to the beach? I’ve put on 10kgs!
- I have anxiety around socialising. What if I have a panic attack at my work Xmas party!
STEP 2 – CHANGE WORRY TO WONDER!
(The ESR Technique)
You’ve got your remaining worries in front of you still…right?
Now, pick only ONE worry to focus on first.
How do you feel?
Do you tense up? Are your shoulders high? Does your breathing change? Do you feel slightly uncomfortable?
This is your body’s physiological response to thought. This is proof of how our thoughts and mindset can change our body’s chemistry and physiology causing illness or feelings of dis-ease.
Kinesiology teaches us that it’s not enough to work on the mind or body alone. In order to feel relief, a sense of ease and to achieve your health and wellness goals long term, it’s important to change your thought processes and remove/shift stress from the body.
Here is one of way of doing it…
Place one hand lightly across your forehead and take a few deep breathes (see image below).
This is the EMOTIONAL STRESS RELEASE (ESR) technique, which is a simple, highly effective Kinesiology tool designed to help shift and change your perspective without the support of another person or therapist.
The ESR technique activates special reflexes which bring more blood to the frontal lobes of the brain. Front brain thinking is creative, with new options and new alternatives. When we use the front brain, we tend to find new ways of looking at old problems, new possibilities and alternative solutions. By placing a hand across the forehead, we allow the mind to open itself to an adaptive rather than protective response. This can help us to rationalise and think clearly in the moment instead of reacting to past stress/trauma.
Whilst applying the ESR technique – close your eyes and imagine (think, sense, feel) someone you respect and idolise; maybe it’s someone who loves you, respects you or knows you well.
What would they say to you? What piece of advice would they give you?
If you struggle with the thought of another person, ask yourself, what can I do or how can I see the situation differently.
Notice again how your body feels as you sort through these different ideas.
Is there an “uh ha” moment? Does this thought make you feel calm and relaxed? Do you feel a sense of lightness or ease, or is it hope?… like yeah, I could get around that idea!
THIS IS YOUR BODY’S WAY OF SAYING YES!
Trust this response and write this new perspective or action down on the opposite side of the piece of paper.
If you feel this worry has been handled and you don’t need to think about it again, THROW IT OUT. If you aren’t sure, pop it back in the box for tomorrow!
I suggest you review your Worry Box once a day… though there is ONE rule.
You are only allowed to look through this box for ½ an hour a day…. meaning that’s how long you can worry about the Christmas period 😉 Remember worrying or thinking doesn’t solve anything so if you CAN NOT take action right now, KEEP YOUR WORRIES IN THE BOX!
STEP 3- LEAN TOWARDS WONDERFUL!
(The Body Lean Test)
As much as there is to plan, organise and do, it’s vital to take some time out for yourself. Really think about what you want and need out of this Christmas period! Where your attention goes, energy flows – so be sure to check in with yourself and ask yourself the question, then set the intention. This will make sure you are going to get the most out of this time!!
Check your body’s response!
In a Kinesiology session, a practitioner uses the tool of ‘muscle testing’ to assess your current state of being. In this case, YOU are now the practitioner and will be assessing your own energy using the self leaning test – a simple, easy and fun way to assess whether something ‘aligns’ or is beneficial for you. Note – this is just an indication and not used to self-diagnose or treat. Please see a Kinesiology practitioner for a more in-depth evaluation!
Lets get into it!
Find a small space around you, stand up straight with your feet shoulder width apart flat on the floor.
Now, take a deep breathe and ask yourself the following questions:
Do I need….
- Relaxation and down time?
- Quality time with family and friends?
- Fun, excitement and/or adventure?
- To appreciate the small things in my life?
After each question, notice what direction your body position is shifting…
Are you moving forward….
FORWARD? – This is a YES. The body wants to go for it!!
BACKWARD? – This is a NO. The body wants to back away from it!
TO THE SIDE? – This is YES & NO. There might be a positive and negative aspect to this idea. You may need to ask the question again or say it in a different way.
If your body said YES to one of your questions – SET THE INTENTION!
Write down the intention or say it out loud. I recommend having this intention somewhere where you can see it on a daily basis such as your fridge, phone or in the bathroom!
Your intention may look something like this:
“This Christmas, I dedicate 1 hour every day to relax, rejuvenate and recharge my batteries so I can do more with my kids.”
“These holidays, I choose to laugh more often, connect with my friends and to be more spontaneous.”
“These holidays, I make the conscious effort to speak kindly to myself, put boundaries in place where I need to and appreciate the small things.”
These 3 steps are provided to help you move from fear to joy, pain to pleasure and stress to calm.
They are tangible, actionable and allow you to seek your own answers in a way that empowers you to move forward.
These are just a few of the many tools a Kinesiologist uses to help you overcome stress, worry, anxiety or anything that is stopping you from feeling good.
If you have any questions or would like to delve deeper, please don’t hesitate to reach out during these upcoming holidays.
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